is this a choice?

........................letting go and getting over.......................
guess not much of a choice here, but rather just part and parcel of life. or maybe even an equation for walking through the pain of failed relationships? hmmm, does this make sense? definitely to me. letting go and getting over are 2 separate issues, and the only thing they have in common, is pain. there's no steps to follow, no ways to escape, u just have to walk right through it. no fixed time frame for letting go and getting over. seconds, minutes, hours, days, weeks, months, years or even a lifetime, are all possible. to eventually be able to think of the person without intense pain, is how i am feeling now. somehow i think it's more painful to let go than to get over, but it's more difficult to get over than to let go. hmmm, kinda confusing here, but i'm not confused.